How to know if your partner is unfaithful? Faced with this thorny question, we sometimes wish we had the investigative skills of a private detective. And that’s good, an expert in the field has revealed his advice to detect infidelity.
Infidelity is one of the main causes of breakups, and it is probably one of the most damaging things in a love story. There’s not much worse than finding out that the man or woman you love is secretly sleeping with someone else. But infidelities aren’t always easy to prove. Do you have doubts but don’t dare confront your partner for fear of doing something stupid? You need professional advice to avoid blunders.
The attitude of unfaithful partners to spot
In an interview with the British website The Independent, private investigator Tom Martin states that cheating men and women all follow the same pattern: they change their habits! In fact, according to him, the top 5 signs that your partner is cheating on you are the following:
- A new daily routine
- Leaving for work earlier and returning later
- An increase in business travel
- Absence from events or family vacations
- A lot of overtime
Yes, work is often used as an excuse to justify the hours a cheater spends with his or her lover. The rest of his list also mentions other red flags that can point to infidelity:
- Unexpected expenses
- Secret accounts on social networks
- Hiding bank statements
- Taking better care of yourself
- Smelling someone else’s clothes
- Buying gifts for someone else
- Having inappropriate items (jewelry, hair elastic, condoms, etc.) in your car
- Joining a gym
- Missed calls from an unknown number
- Messages that seem to be in code
- Less sex
- Obvious lies
- Less patience
- Signs of anger when you visit him by surprise
Infidelity: when should you worry?
Of course, some signs do not necessarily mean that your partner is cheating on you. A drop in the rhythm of sexual relations, for example, can be linked to a stroke of fatigue, a hormonal change or all sorts of other reasons. On the other hand, according to the specialist, it is when the warning signs accumulate that you should worry: “One or two things on this list do not necessarily point to infidelity,” says the private investigator. “On the other hand, if you see more than three or four, then you have a problem.”
Now you’re ready and armed to detect signs of deception: it’s up to you to use discretion until you have the evidence to confront a cheating person.