It is important to know that 93% of our communication is non-verbal. It is therefore important to know exactly how to make our body language work for us in our relationships. In this article, I will give you 10 tips on how to feel better in your body and in your relationship with others. Very quickly, you will feel empowered, because your body will move and vibrate to its highest degree.
1. HAVING THE SMILE
Most people will go through their day without a smile. We live by the precept: metro, work, sleep and we lose our desire to live and to blossom. The people who will smile are those who have made the decision to spread light and positive vibes. This is a real strength, because we will look at this person and ask ourselves “What is their secret? Your smile is your calling card, because you will differentiate yourself from 99% of the people who have lost it. I suggest you try it for a week and you will see for yourself that the smile will change the way you approach your day.
2. KEEP THE SPACE OPEN IN FRONT OF YOUR CHEST
The idea is to be able to have enough space in front of your torso to make room for your movements and not block your breathing. It’s a bit like meditation where you have to breathe well and be aware of what’s going on in your stomach. When you have to talk to someone, you should take the time to take a deep breath and feel the oxygen flowing through your chest. This will help you to take a more “dominant” posture, as you will straighten up and take more space. On the other hand, people who do not do this and breathe poorly are the ones who will curl up and look like they are shrinking.
3. MAKING EYE CONTACT
When you look someone in the eye, you create a “connection” between you. If you do a simple test in the metro, you will realise that the person you are talking to will look at you and wonder about your intention. Similarly, when you are talking to someone, eye contact maintains a relationship based on closeness and importance. On the other hand, a person who avoids eye contact will be seen as shy and more fragile. Eye contact can really help you in the power of your body language.
4. MANAGING YOUR PERSONAL SPACE
We all have our own personal space. When someone comes close to you, at some point you feel that they are getting too close and that bothers you. This space is to be managed, because it determines your personal limit which you should not cross. This same space does not or cannot exist for our lover or our family. It is important to be able to manage this space well, because people are not aware of it and will tend to get too close to you. If you manage it well, you will be able to put a stop or step back so that the person respects this social barrier.
5. YOUR HANDS TALK
If you are anxious and constantly touch your hands to reassure yourself, the other person will see that you are not confident. If you look around you, you will see that hands have their own language. Between people who talk by moving their hands and others who tend to hide them, it’s a good indicator of your personality. From now on, when you speak, try to see what your hand language is. You can then change your hand language to feel more confident.
6. WATCH OUT FOR DISTRACTING MOVEMENTS
Your body language speaks for you, so distracting movements must be controlled. A confident person will not spend time touching their hands and hair for example. When you walk into a room and look down, it says a lot about your confidence. If you are the type of person who takes a long time to find your position on a chair, it also says something about your inner stress. Distracting movements are those that you may not realise but are part of the non-verbal language palette.
7. PAY ATTENTION TO YOUR PACE AND RATE OF SPEECH
It is always best to speak calmly and clearly to be understood. If you tend to speak too fast, you will not be understood properly. A confident person will put their words down and speak meaningful words to inspire confidence. If you speak too fast, you will not be heard by your audience. I advise you to pay attention to your pace and rate of speech in order to have more impact in your discussions.
8. YOUR MOVEMENTS SHOULD INCLUDE AND NOT EXCLUDE
When someone is talking to you and you cross your arms while listening: this is a form of exclusion, because you are in a closed position. If your face is closed, it’s the same, whereas a smile includes the person in the discussion. Our body speaks and will put itself in a position of exclusion without us really being aware of it. This is why we need to take a step back from our body language. The simple act of smiling and opening your arms in greeting can change the way others perceive you.
9. PRACTICE EMOTIONAL OPENNESS
If you can change your body language, but you can’t be open emotionally, it will be counterproductive. That’s why, when you’re on a date, you need to focus on the person without looking at your messages and notifications. When you are in a relationship with someone, you need to be able to be there 100% for that person.
10. ADAPT TO THE PERSON YOU ARE TALKING TO
If you are in front of someone who is super dynamic, you need to be able to adapt to their pace. If you are in a recruitment interview, you should position yourself as a “mirror” to the person you are interviewing. This means that you will adapt to the other person’s body characteristics. By doing this, you will get in touch much more easily. We don’t realise it, but when we are in a relationship, we tend to adapt our body language to the other person.
Body language can be adapted according to the circumstances and the person we are talking to. We simply have to be careful how we position ourselves and respond to the messages in our environment. If you can follow the advice in this article, you will feel better in your body very quickly.